Find out what kind of self-esteem you have (adequate, high or low)

1. How often do you have thoughts that you shouldn't have said or done something?
a) very often - 1 point;
b) sometimes - 3 points.

2. If you associate with a brilliant and witty person, you:
a) try to beat him in wit - 5 points;
b) you will not get involved in the competition, but give it its due and leave the conversation - 1 point.

3. Choose one of the opinions that is closest to you:
a) what many people think is luck, in fact, the result of hard work - 5 points;
b) success often depends on a happy coincidence - 1 point;
c) in a difficult situation, the main thing is not perseverance or luck, but a person who can approve or console - 3 points.

4. You were shown a cartoon or a parody of you. You:
a) laugh and be glad that you have something
original - 3 points;
b) also try to find something funny in your partner and make fun of him - 4 points;
c) be offended, but do not pretend - 1 point.

5. Are you always in a hurry, don't have enough time, or do you take on tasks that are beyond the capacity of one person?
a) yes - 1 point;
b) no - 5 points;
c) I don't know - 3 points.

6. You choose perfume as a gift for a friend. Buy:
a) perfumes that you like - 5 points;
b) perfumes that you think a friend will be happy with,
although you personally do not like them - 3 points;
c) the perfume that was advertised in a recent TV show.

7. Do you like to imagine various situations in which you behave in a completely different way than in life?
a) yes - 1 point;
b) no - 5 points;
c) I don't know - 3 points.

8. Does it bother you when your colleagues (especially younger ones) do better than you?
a) yes - 1 point;
b) no - 5 points;
c) sometimes - 3 points.

9. Do you enjoy arguing with someone?
a) yes - 5 points;
b) no - 1 point;
c) I don't know - 3 points.

10. Close your eyes and try to imagine 3 colors:
a) blue - 1 point;
b) yellow - 3 points;
c) red - 5 points.

Scoring

50-38 points. You are satisfied with yourself and confident in yourself. You have a great need to dominate people, like to emphasize your "I", highlight your opinion. You don't care what people say about you, but you yourself have a tendency to criticize others. The more points you have, the more appropriate the definition: "You love yourself, but do not love others." But you have one drawback: take yourself too seriously, do not accept any critical information. And even if you don’t like the results of the test, most likely you will “defend yourself” with the statement “everyone’s calendars lie.” It's a pity…

37-24 points. You live in harmony with yourself, you know yourself and you can trust yourself. You have a valuable ability to find a way out of difficult situations, both personal and in relationships with people. The formula of your attitude towards yourself and others can be expressed in the words: "I am satisfied with myself, satisfied with others." You have a normal healthy self-esteem, you know how to be a support and a source of strength for yourself and, most importantly, not at the expense of others.

23-10 points. Obviously, you are dissatisfied with yourself, you are tormented by doubts and dissatisfaction with your intellect, abilities, achievements, your appearance, age, gender ... Stop! Who said that loving yourself is bad? Who inspired you that a thinking person should be constantly dissatisfied with himself? Of course, no one requires you to be self-satisfied, but you must accept yourself, respect yourself, maintain this spark in yourself.

Instruction: “You are invited to answer 20 questions. Try to imagine typical situations and give the first "natural" answer that comes to mind. Answer quickly and accurately. Remember that there are no "good" or "bad" answers. If you agree with the statement, put a “+” (yes) sign next to its number, if not, a “-” (no) sign.

Questionnaire text

Usually I count on success in my affairs.

Most of the time I am in a depressed mood.

Most of the guys consult with me (consider).

I lack self-confidence.

I am about as capable and resourceful as most of the people around me (the guys in the class).

At times, I feel like I don't need anyone.

I do everything well (any business).

8. It seems to me that I will not achieve anything in the future (after school).

9. In any case, I consider myself right.

10. I do a lot of things that I later regret.

When I hear about the success of someone I know, I feel it as my own defeat.

It seems to me that people around me are looking at me accusingly.

I'm not worried about possible failures.

It seems to me that various obstacles that I cannot overcome prevent me from successfully completing assignments or affairs.

15. I rarely regret what I have already done.

16. The people around me are much more attractive than myself.

17. I myself think that someone needs me all the time.

18. It seems to me that I do much worse than the rest.

19. I'm more lucky than unlucky.

20. In life, I am always afraid of something.

Results processing : The number of odd-numbered yeses is counted, then the number of even-numbered agreements is counted. The second is subtracted from the first result. The end result can be between -10 and +10.

A score of -10 to -4 indicates low self-esteem.

The result from -3 to +3 is about average self-esteem.

The result from +4 to +10 is about high self-esteem.

Test for the study of self-esteem (Modification by L.P. Ponomarenko)

Instruction to the subjects . It is known that personal qualities, inherent in man, are located on a continuum consisting of polar characteristics. On the form (Fig. 25) there are 15 character traits that have two polar poles. Consistently for each pair, determine how this property manifests itself in you. In the middle of the form there are columns numbered from 1 to 7. (If there are no forms, you can work on sheets of paper, after drawing them out like the plate below.)

Using the example of the first pair, we will analyze how to work with the technique. If you select column number 1, it means that you are 100% good person(you do not have a 1% anger). If you consider yourself a 100% evil person, then you should choose column #7. Column #4 is in the middle position (i.e. you are 50% "kind" and 50% "angry"). Column number 3 - you are more of a kind person than an evil person (approximately 65% ​​"kindness" and 35% "anger"). Column number 2 - approximately 80% of you have the characteristic indicated on the right, and 20% - the one on the left. Selecting column #5, respectively, means that you have a little more of the quality shown on the left (in this case, about 65% "angry" and 35% "kindness"). Column number 6 - approximately 80% of the characteristic indicated on the left is inherent in you, and 20% of the one on the right. So, you guessed it, the closer the column is to the right or left side of a pair of properties, the more pronounced this pole and, accordingly, the less the second one.

Ha I stage work on each pair, you choose the column number corresponding to how each of the properties manifests itself in you at the present period of your life (“Real Self”). Mark your choice with a cross (“x”) in the appropriate box.

After all participants have completed this task, you can proceed to II stage work. Now you need to return to the first pair of polar characteristics and evaluate how you would like this property to be developed in you, i.e. what would you like to be. For example, you rated yourself as a 100% kind person (a cross under the column with number 1), but in life this often interferes and you would like “anger” and “kindness” to be equally represented in you. In this case, at stage II, you choose the position of column No. 4 and mark your choice with a circle. It may happen that you are satisfied with the position that you have - in this case, simply circle the cross placed at the first stage. After you once again looked through all 15 pairs and for each of them marked with a circle the position that corresponds to your “ideal self”, we proceed to the third stage of work.

Treatment results. For each pair of polar properties, calculate the difference between the positions of the “real I” and the “ideal I”. For this, the absolute difference (without taking into account the sign) is calculated between the column number where the cross is and the number where you put the circle. For example, in the first pair, you rated yourself as a kind person by 80% (a cross in the column with No. 2), but you would like “kindness” and “anger” to be 50x50 (a circle in the column with No. 4). In this case, the difference will be 4-2 = 2. Write this number next to the first pair. If the cross is in column No. 7 and the circle is under No. 6, the difference is 7-6 = 1. If the position of the cross and circle is the same, the difference will be 0. This number should also be written next to the corresponding pair.

The final stage of the work consists in summing up all 15 digits, which are the difference between the positions of the “real self” and the “ideal self”. The resulting amount is compared with the key.

Interpretation

A number over 25 indicates low self-esteem its owner. Low self-esteem is characteristic of people who tend to doubt themselves, take on their own account the remarks, dissatisfaction of other people, worry and worry about insignificant reasons, and experiences are deep and long-lasting. Such people are often not self-confident, it is difficult for them to make decisions, the need to insist on their own. Comparing themselves with others, they come to disappointing conclusions, they do not like to accept compliments, they see in themselves more shortcomings than virtues.

Usually such people subtly feel the experiences of others, they are vulnerable, impressionable, “thin-skinned”. Often (if low self-esteem is not associated with a hypercompensatory desire to demonstrate their own significance to everyone), they care more about the convenience of others than about their own benefit, they can sacrifice their own interests for the sake of another person. Sometimes others take advantage of it. I must say that others feel good with such people, but they themselves often suffer.

In some cases, low self-esteem leads to a desire to assert oneself at the expense of others, a painful tendency to see behind the actions of other people a desire to hurt or offend. Sometimes unmotivated aggressiveness and outbursts of anger may appear.

Most likely, the origins of low self-esteem should be sought in the style of parenting. Perhaps your parents (or one of them) were too strict or critical, or often compared you to others, or made high demands on your achievements. This cannot be changed, and the path to maturity lies through the awareness and elaboration of one's children's "complexes".

If you scored more than 25, you should reconsider your attitude towards yourself. "Love yourself!" - this is the main task for you. Get rid of negative thoughts, praise yourself more often, benefit even from failures!

A number from 10 to 25 indicates adequate self-assessment. Such people soberly assess themselves, see in themselves both advantages and disadvantages, and are able to respond to circumstances. Taking into account signals from outside, they can change and improve themselves. Both failures and victories are perceived adequately, draw conclusions, learn from mistakes and are ready to perceive new things.

A result of less than 10 points can be interpreted in different ways. Sometimes this indicates a hidden unwillingness to participate in testing, the formal completion of a task. A low score may indicate a defensive reaction, as well as a demonstrated high self-esteem ("I'm fine, leave me alone") or indicate a negative attitude towards testing, an unwillingness to be frank. Such a score is also scored by people who are not inclined to introspection and reflection, who do not like to look inside themselves.

If a person answered sincerely and really believes that his "real self" is almost no different from the "ideal self", we can talk about inflated self-esteem, i.e. such people are confident in their own infallibility, and then it is quite difficult to interact with them, since they are not ready to “hear” others, to perceive signals from outside that require some kind of change in their behavior.

The study of self-esteem of personality.

Option I

Instructions for the test

Each person has certain ideas about the ideal of the most valuable personality traits. People are guided by these qualities in the process of self-education. What qualities do you value most in people? Different people have different ideas, and therefore the results of self-education do not match. What ideas about the ideal do you have? The following task, which is performed in two stages, will help you understand this.

Stage 1

Divide a sheet of paper into four equal parts, designate each part with Roman numerals I, II, III, IV.

Four sets of words characterizing the positive qualities of people are given. You must highlight in each set of qualities those that are more significant and valuable to you personally, which you prefer over others. What these qualities are and how many of them - everyone decides for himself.

Read the words of the first set of qualities carefully. Write down in a column the qualities that are most valuable to you along with their numbers on the left. Now proceed to the second set of qualities - and so on until the very end. As a result, you should get four sets of ideal qualities.

In order to create conditions for the same understanding of the qualities by all participants in the psychological examination, we give an interpretation of these qualities:

I. Interpersonal relationships, communication.

1. Politeness- observance of the rules of decency, courtesy.
2. caring- thought or action directed to the well-being of people; care, care.
3. Sincerity- expression of genuine feelings, truthfulness, frankness.
4. Collectivism- the ability to support a common work, common interests, a collective principle.
5. Responsiveness- willingness to respond to the needs of others.
6. cordiality- a cordial, affectionate attitude, combined with hospitality, with a willingness to serve something.
7. Sympathy- responsive, sympathetic attitude to the experiences, misfortune of people.
8. Tact- a sense of proportion, which creates the ability to behave in society, not to offend the dignity of people.
9. Tolerance- the ability to treat other people's opinions, character, habits without hostility,
10. sensitivity- responsiveness, sympathy, the ability to easily understand people.
11. benevolence- the desire for good to people, the willingness to contribute to their well-being.
12. friendliness- the ability to express feelings of personal affection.
13. Charm- the ability to charm, attract to oneself.
14. Sociability- the ability to communicate easily.
15. obligatory- fidelity to the word, duty, promise.
16. Responsibility- the need, the obligation to answer for one's actions and actions.
17. Frankness- openness, accessibility for people.
18. Justice- an objective assessment of people in accordance with the truth.
19. Compatibility- the ability to combine one's own efforts with the activity of others in solving common problems.
20. exactingness- severity, expectation from people to fulfill their duties, duty.

II. Behavior

1. Activity- manifestation of an interested attitude to the world around and to oneself, to the affairs of the team, energetic deeds and actions.
2. Pride- self-esteem.
3. good nature- softness of character, disposition towards people.
4. Decency- honesty, inability to commit vile and antisocial acts.
5. Courage The ability to make and implement decisions without fear.
6. Hardness- the ability to insist on one's own, not to succumb to pressure, steadfastness, stability.
7. Confidence- faith in the correctness of actions, the absence of hesitation, doubt.
8. Honesty- directness, sincerity in relationships and actions.
9. Energy- decisiveness, activity of actions and actions.
10. Enthusiasm- strong inspiration, spiritual uplift.
11. good faith- honest performance of their duties.
12. Initiative- the desire for new forms of activity.
13. Intelligence- high culture, education, erudition.
14. persistence- perseverance in achieving goals.
15. Determination- inflexibility, firmness in actions, the ability to make decisions quickly, overcoming internal fluctuations.
16. integrity- the ability to adhere to firm principles, beliefs, views on things and events.
17. Self-criticism- the desire to evaluate their behavior, the ability to reveal their mistakes and shortcomings.
18. Independence- the ability to carry out actions without the help of others, on their own.
19. Equilibrium- even, calm character, behavior.
20. purposefulness- having a clear goal, the desire to achieve it.

III. Activity

1. Thoughtfulness– deep insight into the essence of the matter.
2. efficiency- knowledge of the matter, enterprise, sensibility.
3. Mastery- high art in any area.
4. comprehension- the ability to understand the meaning, ingenuity.
5. Speed- swiftness of actions and actions, speed.
6. composure- Focus, concentration.
7. Accuracy- the ability to act as given, in accordance with the model.
8. industriousness- love for work, socially useful activity that requires tension.
9. Passion- the ability to devote oneself to any task.
10. perseverance- diligence in what requires a long time and patience.
11. Accuracy- observance of order in everything, thoroughness of work, diligence.
12. Attentiveness- Concentration on the work performed.
13. foresight- insight, the ability to foresee the consequences, predict the future.
14. Discipline- the habit of discipline, consciousness of duty to society.
15. diligence- diligence, good performance of tasks.
16. Curiosity- inquisitiveness of the mind, a tendency to acquire new knowledge.
17. Resourcefulness- the ability to quickly find a way out of difficult situations.
18. Subsequence- the ability to perform tasks, actions in a strict order, logically harmonious.
19. performance- the ability to work hard and productively.
20. scrupulousness- Accuracy to the smallest detail, special care.

IV. Experiences, feelings

1. cheerfulness- a feeling of fullness of strength, activity, energy.
2. Fearlessness- lack of fear, courage.
3. gaiety- carefree-joyful state.
4. soulfulness- sincere friendliness, disposition to people.
5. Mercy- willingness to help, forgive out of compassion, philanthropy.
6. Tenderness- a manifestation of love, affection.
7. love of freedom- love and desire for freedom, independence.
8. cordiality sincerity, sincerity in relationships.
9. Passion- the ability to completely surrender to passion.
10. bashfulness- the ability to feel shame.
11. exhilaration- a measure of experience, mental anxiety.
12. Enthusiasm- a great upsurge of feelings, delight, admiration.
13. pity- a tendency to feel pity, compassion.
14. Cheerfulness- the constancy of a sense of joy, the absence of despondency.
15. Lovingness- the ability to love many and strongly.
16. Optimism- cheerful attitude, faith in success.
17. Restraint- the ability to restrain oneself from the manifestation of feelings.
18. Satisfaction- a feeling of pleasure from the fulfillment of desires.
19. coolness- the ability to remain calm and patient.
20. Sensitivity- ease of occurrence of experiences, feelings, increased susceptibility to external influences.

StageII

Carefully consider the personality traits you wrote out from the first set, and find among them those that you possess really. Circle the numbers next to them. Now move on to the second set of qualities, then to the third and fourth.

Handling test results

Calculate how much you have found real qualities (R).

Count the number ideal qualities issued by you ( AND; qualities written out at the first stage), and then calculate their percentage:

C \u003d (P / I) * 100%.

Option 2

Instructions for the test

Carefully read a set of 20 personality traits: accuracy, kindness, cheerfulness, perseverance, intelligence, truthfulness, adherence to principles, independence, modesty, sociability, pride, conscientiousness, indifference, laziness, arrogance, cowardice, greed, suspicion, selfishness, impudence.

in the column " ideal» Under number (rank) 1, write down the quality of the above that you value most in people, under number 2 - the quality that you value a little less, etc., in descending order of importance. Under number 13, indicate that quality - a shortcoming - from the above, which you could most easily forgive people (after all, as you know, there are no ideal people, everyone has flaws, but you can forgive some, but not some ), at number 14 - the flaw that is more difficult to forgive, etc., at number 20 - the most disgusting, from your point of view, quality of people.

in the column " I"Under (rank) 1, write down the quality of the above that you personally have the most developed (regardless of whether it is an advantage or a disadvantage), under number 2 - the quality that you have developed a little less, etc. in decreasing order, under the last numbers - those qualities that you have the least developed or absent.

Sample form for the test

Handling test results

In column 3, the respondent must calculate the difference in rank numbers for each written quality. For example: such a property as "accuracy" in the first column (Ideal) is at 1 rank place, and in the second (I) - at 7; d will be equal to 1-7=-6; such a quality as "principledness" in both the first and second columns is in the 3rd ranking place. In this case d will be equal to 3-3=0; such a quality as "indifference" in the first column is at the 20th ranking place, and in the second - at 2. In this case d will be equal to 20-2=18, etc.

Column 5 contains the sum d2, i.e:

Σd 2 \u003d d 1 2 + d 2 2 + d 3 2 + ... + d 20 2;

R \u003d 1 - 6Σd 2 / (n 3 - n), where

• n– number of compared pairs

In the case of n=20, the formula takes the following form:

R \u003d 1 - 0.00075Σd 2

Values R will be within [-1; +1].

Interpretation of test results

Self-esteem can be optimal And suboptimal. With optimal, adequate self-esteem, the subject correctly correlates his capabilities and abilities, is quite critical of himself, seeks to realistically look at his failures and successes, tries to set achievable goals that can be achieved in practice. He approaches the assessment of what has been achieved not only with his own standards, but also tries to foresee how other people will react to this: work mates and relatives. In other words, adequate self-esteem is the result of a constant search for a real measure, i.e. without too much overestimation, but also without excessive criticality to their communication, behavior, activities, experiences. Such a self-assessment is best for specific conditions and situations.

Optimal self-assessments high level" And " above average"(a person deserves to appreciate, respect himself, is pleased with himself), and also" average level "(a person respects himself, but knows his weaknesses and strives for self-improvement, self-development).

Self-esteem may be suboptimal - too high or too low.

Based inadequate self-esteem a person has a misconception about himself, an idealized image of his personality and capabilities, his value for others, for the common cause. In such cases, a person goes to ignore failures in order to maintain the usual high assessment of himself, his actions and deeds. There is an acute emotional “repulsion” of everything that violates the self-image. The perception of reality is distorted, the attitude towards it becomes inadequate - purely emotional. The rational grain of evaluation falls out completely. Therefore, a fair remark begins to be perceived as a nitpick, and an objective assessment of the results of the work - as unfairly underestimated. Failure appears as a consequence of someone's intrigues or unfavorable circumstances that in no way depend on the actions of the individual himself.

Man with overpriced inadequate self-esteem does not want to admit that all this is a consequence of his own mistakes, laziness, lack of knowledge, abilities or wrong behavior. There is a heavy emotional condition- the affect of inadequacy, the main reason for which is the persistence of the prevailing stereotype of an overestimation of one's personality. If high self-esteem is plastic, changes in accordance with the real state of affairs - it increases with success and decreases with failure, then this can contribute to the development of the individual, since she has to make every effort to achieve her goals, develop her abilities and will.

Self-esteem may be low, i.e., below the real possibilities of the individual. Usually this leads to self-doubt, shyness and lack of daring, the inability to realize their abilities. Such people do not set difficult goals for themselves, they are limited to solving everyday tasks, they are too critical of themselves.

Too high or too low self-esteem violates the process of self-management, distort self-control. This is especially noticeable in communication, where people with high and low self-esteem are the cause of conflicts. At inflated self-esteem conflicts arise due to a disdainful attitude towards other people and disrespectful treatment of them, too harsh and unreasonable statements addressed to them, intolerance towards other people's opinions, manifestations of arrogance and arrogance. Low self-criticism prevents them from even noticing how they offend others with arrogance and indisputable judgments.

At low self-esteem conflicts can arise due to the excessive criticality of these people. They are very demanding of themselves and even more demanding of others, they do not forgive a single mistake or mistake, they tend to constantly emphasize the shortcomings of others. And although this is done with the best of intentions, it still causes conflicts due to the fact that few can tolerate systematic "sawing". When they see only the bad in you and constantly point to it, then there is a dislike for the source of such assessments, thoughts and actions.

Affect of inadequacy arises as an attempt by individuals with high self-esteem to protect themselves from real circumstances and maintain their usual self-esteem. This leads to disruption of relationships with other people. The experience of resentment and injustice allows you to feel good, to remain at the proper height in your own eyes, to consider yourself injured or offended. This elevates a person in his own eyes and eliminates dissatisfaction with himself. The need for inflated self-esteem is satisfied and there is no need to change it, that is, to come to grips with self-management. Inevitably, conflicts arise with people who have different ideas about this person, his abilities, opportunities and values ​​for society. The affect of inadequacy is psychological protection , it is a temporary measure, since it does not solve the main problem, namely, a radical change in non-optimal self-esteem, which is the cause of unfavorable interpersonal relationships.

These techniques allow us to solve several more research and practical problems. Here are some of them:

I. There are several forms of human activity: communication, behavior, activity, experiences. Personality can also be considered as a subject of self-government. Since the simultaneous implementation of all these forms of activity is difficult, the person shows interest in one or two areas of his life. Indeed, everyone has observed people who live "in the world of people", "in a closed world", "in the world of affairs" and "in the world of feelings". It would be natural to assume that when performing the methodology, people choose more qualities in the area that interests them more. This allows find out in which area their interests lie, their preferences. To this end, it is necessary to calculate how many “ideal” qualities were written out for each of the four blocks and compare the numbers obtained with each other. The leader will be the level of human activity, where the most "ideal" and "real" qualities are collected, as well as their percentage.

II. Available idea of ​​the value orientations of any group, different from others in age, gender, profession; To do this, you need to calculate how many people chose this or that quality and with what rank of significance. If this number is converted into percentages, then an interesting opportunity opens up to compare groups according to the preference of personality traits, according to the degree of importance of individual properties for it. The ranking of these properties by the number of people who have chosen this property shows what place it belongs to in an integral system of ideas about the personality.

III. Available an idea of ​​how each individual person differs from other people in terms of their value orientations. To do this, you need to create an average "portrait" value orientations the group to which he belongs. Then a qualitative analysis is needed of the qualities he has chosen and those personality traits that are most often found in the group as a whole. So, against the background of group preferences, it is possible to identify individual characteristics.

Sources

• Test "Self-assessment"/ Stolyarenko L.D. Fundamentals of psychology: Workshop. - Rostov n / D, 2003. P. 479-480