• Talented, smart people get lonely too
• Loneliness kills a person, especially if it is forced
• The reason for loneliness may be a person's views on the world around him.
• It is much more difficult for a single person to live than for someone who has family and close friends.
• Loneliness can be forced: a person becomes lonely due to terrible circumstances
• It is hard for a person who has no friends to live in society

Arguments

K.G. Paustovsky "Telegram". Daughter Nastya literally doomed Katerina Ivanovna, her mother, to loneliness. The girl lived a busy life in Leningrad. She did not even imagine that she could break away from work to visit her old mother. Nastya, receiving letters from Katerina Ivanovna, was also glad that the old woman was alive, because she could write. The girl realized too late that she left alone the only person who truly loved her - her mother. Nastya received a letter asking her mother to come, but did not take it seriously. Only after the telegram that Katerina Ivanovna was dying did the girl realize what a serious mistake she had made. Nastya blamed herself for leaving her old mother alone, whom she should have valued most in life.

A.S. Pushkin "The Stationmaster". The loneliness of Samson Vyrin was forced. Dunya, his daughter, ran away from home with officer Minsky, who stopped at their station. The desire to at least see his daughter prompted Samson Vyrin to walk to St. Petersburg. There he received only Minsky's promise to make Dunya happy. He saw his daughter later, but at the sight of her father she fainted. Minsky pushed the old man up the stairs. Since then, he had not heard from Dong for three years. Samson Vyrin died alone, never seeing his daughter. Dunya returned to her father, whom she condemned to loneliness, but it was already too late. She spent a lot of time at the grave.

I.S. Turgenev "Fathers and Sons". Nihilist Yevgeny Bazarov can also be called lonely. At first he communicates with Arkady Kirsanov, but soon the paths of young people diverge. The loneliness of Yevgeny Bazarov is connected with his view of the world. Far from everyone would decide to agree with the opinion of this person, the views of the hero are too far from what has been accepted in society for centuries. It is difficult for people to look at nature as a workshop, to deny almost everything they are used to. The hero has many followers, but we understand that none of them are truly devoted to nihilism. Therefore, Bazarov's loneliness, although natural, is to some extent difficult for him.

M. Sholokhov “The fate of man”. Andrey Sokolov was made lonely by the war. His entire family died: first, a shell hit his house, where his daughters and wife were at that time, and on May 9, at the very end of the war, his son Anatoly died from a sniper's bullet. Andrei Sokolov was left alone, without a home and family. Vanya, a little boy whose parents died, helped the hero find the strength to live and to some extent brighten up the loneliness. Andrei Sokolov introduced himself as his father and took the child to him. So two lonely people found each other, in whose fate the war mercilessly intervened.

A.I. Solzhenitsyn "Matryona Dvor". Matrena Vasilievna Grigorieva had neither a living husband nor children. There was only a pupil of Cyrus, tied to her. Matryona was doomed to loneliness. She could not even work properly, because from time to time she suffered for several days from a strange illness. People came to the woman only when they needed something. So part of the hut was taken away during life, without thinking about the consequences. But Matryona's kindness knew no bounds, it is rare to meet such a person. The woman did not refuse to help others when asked, even if she was unable to do so. Only after the death of Matrena Vasilievna did everyone care about her: everyone wanted to receive some kind of inheritance. The selfishness of people who doomed a person to loneliness during life, and after death began to divide property, is striking.

Jack London Martin Eden. Until Martin Eden was rich and famous, no one believed in his future, no one spoke well of his undertakings. When the hero began to build the future of the writer, he was alone and saved only by the love of Ruth. Soon the beloved turned away from Martin Eden. But when they started talking about him, when he had money, friendly invitations to dinners rained down, Ruth returned with a plea for forgiveness. Only for Martin Eden all this meant nothing. He realized that he had not changed a bit since the time when his work was still rejected. All the work had already been done by that time. Therefore, in the midst of everyone's attention, Martin Eden became even more alone than before. The world around him seemed disgusting.

D. Keyes “Flowers for Algernon”. The history of Charlie Gordon is controversial. At the beginning of the work, we see him as a weak-minded person, an object of ridicule. Later, Charlie Gordon becomes a genius, albeit temporarily. But he is even lonelier than before. Everyone considers Charlie too smart, selfish, incapable of showing feelings and emotions. The intellectual abilities of a person, growing exponentially, do not contribute to communication with people. The hero is alone. It is much easier for an imbecile Charlie Gordon to live than a Charlie Gordon with an outstanding intellect. Mental abilities only push towards loneliness, although at first it seems to the hero that people communicate more willingly with an intelligent person. In reality, everything turns out to be completely different.

Loneliness is for the strong... the weak love the crowd. The moment you step out of the crowd, the person begins to disappear.
Even if you were nothing more than a combination of the opinions of the crowd, you are still someone in the crowd: a professor, an artisan, a black man, a white man, a Muslim, a Hindu, you have a document of identity ...
And loneliness - no name, no form, just pure presence, pure life, nameless, formless. Undoubtedly, it requires courage. It requires courage and will to know oneself; in the understanding that loneliness is the realization of a spirit that is not attached to anything and is free. Loneliness is the lot of the strong in spirit. The higher the spirit, the deeper the realization of one's great loneliness.
The higher the spirit rises, the fewer relatives it becomes. Spiritual closeness of kindred spirits does not release from loneliness.

Often confused feeling that we alone and condition loneliness.
In loneliness there is immense beauty and splendor, positivity and peace, restraint and peace, bliss and silence, wisdom and ease of existence.
Loneliness of the strong...
And the feeling that you are lonely is poor, negative, dark, gloomy, leaves a void in your soul. Something is missing, something is needed... and nothing can ever fill it, because it is a misunderstanding in the first place.
"A mistake does not cease to be a mistake because the majority shares it"- wrote L. Tolstoy.

People who realize loneliness can live with themselves as easily as if the whole world was with them, they can enjoy themselves, just like small children, truly happy!

Original taken from irbis_legend in Scared of being alone?

The most worthy people are lonely. They are strong, passionate, but lonely.
For some reason, this very topic has been haunting me since this morning.
What are they really like inside?
Why?
I want to reflect on this with you.
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Such people are distinguished by charisma, often impeccable appearance, a lively brain, good upbringing and ideal manners.
Not always, of course, but most of the time.
In such people, thousands of devils and dependence on something are ALWAYS hidden.
A strong, imperious gaze, in which a slight sadness is barely visible ... or maybe not barely ....

They are looking for their people.
Their own for communication, for company and a pleasant stay, their own for love, relationships and family.
They can make mistakes more often, suffer more, make contact less often, and experience failure more difficult.
But each time, burning down in a relationship, they are reborn from the ashes, like Phoenix birds, becoming even more perfect and stronger.
And again, and again, start all over again.
And if they love, then everyone first tries to start with the same person ....

They don't like stereotypes modern society, it is almost impossible to impose someone else's opinion on them.
They often throw mud at them behind their backs, but no one will ever dare to say something to their face, and all rumors are broken about their iron character.
To smithereens.
Regardless of whether it is a man or a woman, they are looking for such a person, next to whom it will be calm.
And this "calmly" is not based on the absence of quarrels, adrenaline or extreme facets of emotions.
This "calmly" means that there is a person nearby who will not betray.
A person whom you have unlimited faith, trust and 200% confidence in.
Even the strongest people need the assurance that they are loved.
They are looking for LOVE.
But often remain alone in this vast world.......

Loneliness.
For many, it is creepy and scary when you are all alone or alone.
At such moments, you see how life passes by, everyone in the area enjoys, smiles, rejoices in pleasant moments .....
And you... you don't live.
Or live, but by half ....
And the worst thing is that you see all the shortcomings, you try to fix everything, but it doesn’t work ...
You never stop waiting for your man....
Here I am. You see me, you hear me, you feel me!
Get it soon...
Warm, comfort, love.
You can live alone and you can live long enough, but what a torment it is.
Although, sometimes, being alone is sometimes necessary. Understand your path, evaluate your actions, think about the future ... what makes sense and what is in vain. But you should not fall into this state for a long time.

Text from the exam

(1) It seems that the fear of being alone is much more likely than it seems to determine the behavior of people. (2) For example, it is embarrassing for many to walk alone or go to a cafe, it is unbearable to return to an empty apartment in the evening, it is not clear how to spend a weekend or vacation without a company. (3) A hasty marriage, casual friends, meaningless communication are designed to drown out an unpleasant experience, to give confidence. (4) The situation is especially difficult for people who feel lonely, being in the circle of friends or family members. (5) Of course, independent, independent individuals easily experience loneliness, and if at some time they lack communication, then it is enough to see an old friend. (6) A person who hoped to overcome loneliness by entering into marriage will be greatly disappointed if he is convinced that this did not happen. (7) Loneliness is painfully experienced by people who could not imagine themselves without living together with someone, and then unexpectedly, due to divorce or death loved one, were alone. (8) For those who are acutely experiencing their loneliness, there are many programs of psychological and psychotherapeutic assistance. (9) These are meeting groups, as well as trainings that teach acquaintance skills, establishing mutual understanding and sincere, open relationships. (10) Running away from loneliness is wrong and useless, scientists say. (11) The American psychologist J. Odie came to the conclusion that this feeling is creative in nature: (12) “The healthy development of the psyche requires alternating periods of intense receipt of sensations and information with periods of immersion in solitude in order to process them.” (13) According to the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, for the development of a person, “seven times the experience of loneliness” is necessary. (14) Only alone with yourself can you hear your soul, find and understand the only one who will never leave you - yourself. (15) And a person with a full and whole soul is always attractive to others, so he will definitely find with whom to share love and friendship!

(According to M. Shirokova)

Introduction

Problem

The problem of loneliness worries psychologists, poets and writers, artists and scientists. People are trying to comprehend the causes of loneliness, to find out positive sides conflicting feelings associated with the state of loneliness. M. Shirokova tried to express her point of view on this topic.

Comment

She reflects on the problem of loneliness, considering it a motive for any human actions. Sometimes people are even afraid to have lunch or take a walk alone with themselves. In order to somehow smooth out unpleasant feelings for themselves, many people get married or marry without love, they try to be in touch with friends every second through smartphones and communication applications.

The consequence of hasty actions is disappointment - in oneself, in family, in friends. Indeed, without real feelings and mutual understanding, it will not work to share your interests and needs. In other words, this is not the way to overcome loneliness.

There are strong personalities in the world for whom being alone with thoughts means finding answers to many questions related to the knowledge of the world and the people around them. Psychologists are sure that a person needs a feeling of loneliness for harmonious development and the correct building of relationships with reality.

Getting impressions and information should alternate with the moments of their comprehension - the moments of sacred communication with oneself. According to F. Nietzsche, a German philosopher, a person must experience “seven times the experience of loneliness” in his life in order to develop correctly.

Author's position

own position

After reflecting on the proposed text, I would like to agree with its author. We are not going anywhere from loneliness. The feeling of loneliness can push us to take more active steps in the field of building relationships with people - caring for the elderly, finding a soul mate, having children.

Inner experiences encourage creative people to the creation of magnificent works of art: literary essays, heartbreaking musical sketches or masterpieces of painting.

Argument #1

Thinking about loneliness, one cannot help but recall the words from the poem by M.Yu. Lermontov's "Sail": "A lonely sail turns white in the fog of the blue sea. What is he looking for in a distant country? What did he throw in his native land? The poet throughout his short life reflected on the feeling of abandonment, uselessness and restlessness. The theme of loneliness has become one of the main in his work.

It seems to me that the reasons for Lermontov's inexplicable anguish, his understanding of himself as an exile, a proud and lonely Demon, lie in the childhood of the rebellious poet, because he was left an orphan with a living father. He suffered a lot, and the result of these sufferings were his immortal poems.

Argument #2

Another striking literary example of the influence of loneliness on a person's life is the story of F.M. Dostoevsky "White Nights". Main character so lonely that, as he walks, he converses with the trees and buildings he meets. When life gives him a chance for love, he loses it, because he does not know how to live in reality. Most likely, he is not able to build simple human communication, the result of which can be strong family ties.

Conclusion

Loneliness is scary, but it also creates. Self-sufficient people easily cope with this feeling, benefiting from it - knowing themselves and creating the greatest and most powerful works.

Many people are very afraid of loneliness. Moreover, from time immemorial, people have not left the fear of being alone. What is it that scares people so much? Is this condition really that terrible? Is it true that loneliness is the lot of strong and gifted individuals?

At one time, philosophers spoke in different ways on this subject. For example, V. Hugo considered loneliness a poison, and A. Olcott associated it with the onset of old age. Some great minds have argued that loneliness is an indicator of the spiritual strength of the individual. B. Shaw wrote that it is a great gift to be able to enjoy being alone.

By how a person endures loneliness, one can judge his level of self-sufficiency. A person who lives in harmony with himself will not ask: "Oh my God, why do I need this loneliness?", but rather uses this moment to good use.

In addition, the feeling of loneliness for a modern person is a completely acceptable state. Everyone decides for himself whether to suffer from loneliness or enjoy.

However, there are some reasons for the feeling of loneliness:

1. People around do not always respond correctly to the innermost thoughts that we share with them. There is always a high probability of being misunderstood and ridiculed. Because of this, you have to keep a lot in yourself, and submit information that is acceptable to society.

2. A person is an egocentric creature, so few people sincerely want to listen to other people's problems, and even more so to show empathy. No need to be offended by society for the fact that it often remains indifferent to your experiences.

3. The desire to be loved is actually due to their own selfishness. And the probability of meeting a person with the same thoughts as ours is extremely small. As a result, close people cannot always understand our actions, do not share our plans and views. This misunderstanding leads to a feeling of loneliness, which forces you to look for your soul mate. Since there is no copy of us in the world, it might be better to stop wasting energy on searching for "the one", and direct them to your own good, for example, to self-development? By developing ourselves as a person, we thereby increase the chance to meet a person with the same thoughts and perception of the world.

4. Many people pay attention to all aspects of a love relationship, except for the spiritual. As a result - the bitterness of parting and mutual claims in the style of "I wasted a lot of time on you."

Loneliness should not cause negative experiences. We need to learn to see the positives in this. With the help of loneliness, you can better understand yourself, realize your desires, actions, potential. Thanks to these reflections, a person grows as a person, the level of spirituality rises, and helps not to become discouraged.

Reasons Strong People Are Lonely

Let's summarize what benefits loneliness gives us and why strong people is he chosen? We list some of them:

1. Loneliness promotes development creativity. After all, the main message of creativity lies in the understanding that no one will ever be able to understand us, but art helps to express one's attitude to the world.

2. Loneliness opens up a philosophical attitude to life in a person, makes him dive deeper into his inner world. In the future, such knowledge allows you to better understand others and establish relationships with them.

3. Loneliness gives clarity of thought and sobriety in assessing oneself. Modern man like a squirrel in a wheel, every day is the same, problems are not solved, but only accumulated. If you feel that there is no more vitality, then you should just be alone in order to know yourself and evaluate your life, what are you doing wrong.

Loneliness is a marker of freedom. As soon as a person realizes this, he begins to look at the world in a new way. What to do on the weekend? Yes, a lot of things: a walk in the park, going to a concert, even just watching your favorite comedy with chips at home. What to cook for lunch? Everything your heart desires. What t-shirt to buy? The one that pleases you. Note that everything is simply due to the fact that you do not equal the opinions of others, you do not need to adapt to anyone. You should not build yourself a merry fellow and the soul of the company if you are not. The main thing is that you feel good.

Man is a social being. From time immemorial, our distant ancestors gathered in communities to hunt and gather together. Since then, humanity has come a long way in the development of ethnic communities, from tribes to entire nations. However, the fact that a person is in the strongest dependence on society is undoubted.

According to psychology, a person cannot develop outside of society. Only in comparison with other people can an individual fully know himself, realize himself as a person. The more difficult it becomes for people who, for some reason, could not find a common language with the society in which they live. I agree with the thesis given at the beginning: in my opinion, strong people are often lonely.

As an example, I would like to cite the novel by M. Yu. Lermontov “The Hero of Our Time”. The protagonist of the work - Grigory Pechorin - without a doubt, an extremely strong, developed personality. Being still at a very early age, however, he manages to become disillusioned with the secular society that existed then in Russia. Experiencing a deep sense of dissatisfaction in life, Pechorin is forced to wander around the world, either amusing himself with love stories with Bela, or interfering in the lives of smugglers, or defeating the naive Grushnitsky.

Lermontov shows us the whole tragedy of a person who does not fit into the clear moral and moral social norms of the noble society of the 30s, and therefore is forced to waste all his enormous mental potential on petty trifles, being alone and isolated from society.

We can also observe a similar conflict between man and society in the novel by M. Sholokhov “ Quiet Don". Grigory Melekhov, brought up in the best traditions of the Don Cossacks, had excellent moral character and brilliantly proved himself during the First World War, from which he returned all hung with awards. However, later erupted Civil War almost completely destroyed the strong personality of Gregory. During the War, Melekhov rushes from one camp to another, trying to find justice in this “fratricidal war”. Having never found her, he realizes that neither service to the Reds, nor service to the Whites can replace his home, and that all he wants is to be close to his family as soon as possible. The last episode of the novel gives us a tiny hope that he finally succeeded. We again witnessed how a strong personality with the right moral guidelines, which, however, did not meet the moral criteria of society, was doomed to loneliness and exile.

Thus, on the example of two works of Russian classics, we were convinced that strong personalities over some historical periods, despite all their potential, were, in fact, removed from public life. Usually this happened “at the turn of the eras” - that is, at a time when society clearly needed change, the replacement of old social norms with new ones. We can only rejoice that in the liberal society of the 21st century, almost everyone can realize themselves as they wish.

Updated: 2017-10-21

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