Calmness and order, general peace of mind - these are the desired states of every person. Our life basically passes like on a swing - from negative emotions to euphoria, and vice versa.
How to find and maintain a point of balance so that the world is perceived positively and calmly, nothing irritates or frightens, and the present moment brings inspiration and joy? And is it possible to find long-term peace of mind? Yes, it is possible! Moreover, along with peace comes true freedom and simple happiness to live.
These are simple rules, and they work religiously. You just need to stop thinking HOW to change and start APPLYING them.
1. Stop asking "Why did this happen to me?" Ask yourself another question: “What wonderful thing happened? What good can this do for me?” The good is there, you just have to see it. Any problem can turn into a real gift from above, if you consider it as an opportunity, and not as a punishment or injustice.
2. Practice gratitude. Every evening sum up: for what you can say “thank you” to the day you lived. If peace of mind is lost, remember the good things you have and the things you can be thankful for in life.
3. Load the body with physical exercises. Remember that the brain most actively produces “hormones of happiness” (endorphins and enkephalins) during physical training. Therefore, if you are overcome by problems, anxiety, insomnia - go outside and walk for several hours. A quick step or run will distract from sad thoughts, saturate the brain with oxygen and raise the level of positive hormones.
4. Develop a “cheerful posture” and create a happy posture for yourself. The body can help wonderfully when you need to restore peace of mind. It will “remember” the feeling of joy if you just straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, stretch happily and smile. Consciously hold yourself in this position for a while, and you will see that the thoughts in your head become calmer, more confident and happy.
5. Bring yourself back to the here and now. A simple exercise helps to get rid of anxiety: look around, focus on what you see. Start mentally "voicing" the picture, inserting as many words as possible "now" and "here". For example: “I am walking down the street now, the sun is shining here. Now I see a man, he is carrying yellow flowers…” and so on. Life consists only of "now" moments, don't forget that.
6. Don't exaggerate your problems. After all, even if you bring a fly close to your eyes, it will take on the size of an elephant! If some experience seems insurmountable to you, think as if ten years have already passed ... How many problems there were before - you solved them all. Therefore, this trouble will also pass, do not dive into it with your head!
7. Laugh more. Try to find something funny in the current state of affairs. It doesn't work - then just find a reason for sincere laughter. Watch a funny movie, remember a funny incident. The power of laughter is amazing! Peace of mind often returns after a good dose of humor.
8. Forgive more. Resentments are like heavy, foul-smelling stones that you carry around with you. What peace of mind can there be with such a burden? Therefore, do not hold evil. People are just people, they cannot be perfect and always bring only good. So forgive the offenders and forgive yourself.
10. Communicate more. Any pain hidden inside multiplies and brings new sad fruits. Therefore, share your experiences, discuss them with loved ones, look for their support. Remember that man is not meant to be alone. Peace of mind can only be found in close relationships - friendship, love, family.
11. Pray and meditate. Do not let bad evil thoughts control you, sow panic, pain and irritation. Change them to short prayers - an appeal to God or to meditation - a state of no-thinking. Stop the unruly flow of internal conversation. This is the basis of a good and stable state of mind.
The unstable economic situation in the world and problems with a partner, lack of work and lack of funds to support a family - in the conditions of society, almost all people are subject to stress. Some individuals skillfully cope with, directing negative energy in a positive direction. Others fall into depression, from which it is quite difficult to get out on their own.
The loss of harmony between consciousness and body is fraught with global consequences affecting health. In order to prevent the occurrence of problems and the deterioration of well-being, it is important to ask the following questions in time: How to restore peace of mind? Is it possible to get rid of the internal imbalance? How to find harmony?
Signs of chronic stress and internal imbalance
It is of paramount importance to correctly and timely diagnose the presence of mental imbalance in a person.
A similar state in psychology is characterized by a disease with the following behavioral and emotional symptoms:
- Unreasonable manifestations of anger and anger.
- Unreasonable resentment.
- Excessive emotionality and fussiness.
- Lack of motivation and desire for self-improvement.
- Prolonged depression.
- Decrease in the level of concentration of attention, absent-mindedness and sloppiness.
- A sharp decrease in performance.
- Deterioration of memory, perception of new information and brain activity.
- , dissatisfaction with lifestyle.
- Apathy to communicate with others, isolation and escaping from the inside.
- Weakness and lethargy, accompanied by a feeling of weariness.
- Loss of interest in world events.
- Pessimistic moods and negative thoughts are reasons to think about your chronic stress.
- Lack of appetite and a decrease in the level of interest in your favorite activities.
- Unreasonable feeling of anxiety and fear, regular.
- Causeless coldness to a partner, manifested in the loss of sexual desire.
- Violation of the usual daily routine, accompanied by insomnia.
The human body has the ability to regenerate and restore at the genetic level. Your task is to detect the problem in time, enlisting the desire to find a way out of the current situation.
Effective methods for restoring peace of mind
Restoring peace of mind is easy. The main thing is to want to enjoy the pleasures of life again. If you want to get rid of a mental illness, then it is important to be guided in solving the problem by the following rules:
- Get ready to change your habitual lifestyle. Be patient and learn to perceive current events from a positive point of view.
- Learn Indian techniques for finding inner harmony. Meditation helps to move away from pressing problems, secluded in one's own mind. Pranayama breathing exercises are popular among lovers of Ayurvedic techniques.
- Realize the fact that life consists of "white" and "black" stripes. If you add rationality to your worldview, it will be easier to perceive ongoing events.
Write down on a piece of paper 3-5 meaningful actions that you are proud of. Frame your creation in an elegant frame and hang it prominently in your bedroom. Remind yourself of past "victories" by stopping daily at a homemade painting. - with a loved one is another relevant way to get rid of depression. Tell a friend or spouse about the problems that are bothering you. Share your innermost thoughts, open up and accept support, accompanied by parting words.
- Learn to be inactive. Sitting at the window, watch passers-by, talk about their behavior, distracting yourself from me.
- Write down negative thoughts on paper, freeing your mind from negative energy. Throw away or burn a piece of paper that contains pressing problems without a shred of regret.
- Fantasize without limiting your imagination to the limits of decency and morality. Visualize your wildest dreams by imagining the possibility of such events happening.
- Do charity work helping people and animals in need. You don't have to be a millionaire to do a good deed. Mercy is shown in a bowl of food for a stray dog or a warm blanket donated to a newborn shelter.
- Don't forget about physical activity, because with the help of sports you can quickly and without harm to health get rid of negative thoughts and negative energy. Sign up for a gym or enjoy a run while exploring the region's landscaped attractions.
- Imagine that you are constantly inside a special protective ball that protects you from negative thoughts and negative energy.
- Place your palm on your chest, feel the rhythm of your heart. Life beating inside can take on a completely different image. The main thing is to make an effort for this and want changes.
- Try to keep calm and composure in stressful situations. With the help of decisive action and rational thinking, you can quickly and without harm to your own reputation get out of the water "dry". Have you been asked? Prepare universal answers in advance, preventing an awkward moment from arising.
- Think about what you can be grateful for. Don't be dramatic by making a list like this. Life, close people, a warm jacket, a roof over your head, hot and satisfying food - there are quite a few reasons to say "thank you".
- Get rid of bad habits looking at everyday things from a new angle. The taste characteristics of food will change significantly if you stop smoking cigarettes.
- Try to rationally evaluate current events. Take a look around, identifying objects with characteristic names. The reality is much simpler than it seems at first glance.
- Feel free to smile. The manifestation of sincere positive emotions will not cause disgust or negativity in society, but on the contrary, it will contribute to a positive mood.
- Look at your own problems from the outside. Imagine that a friend or spouse approached you with an identical question. What would you do? Solutions are on the surface.
- Do not neglect the services of professional massage therapists and chiropractors. allows you to relax not only physically, but also spiritually.
- Learn to tell people "No" if you really don't want to help them. Show responsiveness only in those situations where you really can not do without your help.
- Watch your diet. The daily menu should contain a large amount of water and biologically active substances contained in healthy foods. Consult a nutritionist if you want to improve your own health by changing the list of your usual meals.
- Accept your successes and failures as accomplished events. Do not jump higher than the "head" - it is more painful to fall from there. However, strive for self-improvement, adequately assessing your capabilities and skills.
- Read, captivating consciousness and awakening the imagination. Literature develops associative thinking and helps to distract from problems.
- Go shopping and enjoy your shopping. Do not answer phone calls while shopping, focus on purchasing goods.
- Forgive people, and anger, destroying your own consciousness.
- Meet with friends or relatives to enjoy pleasant memories while stepping away from pressing problems.
- Listen to soothing music that will help you calm down and tune in a positive way.
- Realize that in order to restore peace of mind, you will have to re-enjoy the events of the past and look forward to the upcoming adventures.
Answering pressing questions at once, improving your social status overnight, instantly establishing relationships with your loved one and unexpectedly getting a position in a company - these are the immediate goals, but not the problems that make it worth it. It is impossible to change the realities in one day, but it is possible to revise the worldview on the events taking place.
You came into this world to enjoy life.Vladimir Zhikarentsev, Path to Freedom.
Always a good mood - it's real, feasible! And restoring peace of mind is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance! Enough to know how it works. And then to remain calm in almost any situation will become an automatic habit.Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel. Marty Larney
Because only in this state appears the ability to discern the slightest favorable opportunities, a chance to use the current situation to your advantage, and in general, to work as productively as possible, make the right decisions, and correct your further steps. And, you see, it's just nice to be in a good, positive mood.
The only thing is, keeping a positive attitude does not mean closing your eyes to what excites you. There are exceptions when banal inaction can give l at better results, solve the problem. But in most cases, the best option is still a reasonable level of concentration, concentration on the task at hand.
Parable "Golden Mean" Crown Prince Shravan, encouraged by the example of the enlightened followers of the Buddha, decided to become a monk. But soon the Buddha and the rest of the disciples began to observe that he rushed from one extreme to another. The Buddha never asked his disciples to go naked, and Shravan stopped dressing. In addition, he began to self-torture: they all took food once a day, but Shravan began to eat every other day. He soon became completely emaciated. While others meditated under the trees in the shade, he sat under the scorching sun. He used to be handsome man, he had a beautiful body, but six months had passed and he could not be recognized.
One evening the Buddha came up to him and said:
- Shravan, I heard that even before the initiation, you were a prince and loved to play the sitar. You were a good musician. That's why I came to ask you a question. What happens if the strings are loosened?<
- If the strings are weakened, then no music will come out.
- And if the strings are pulled too hard?
- Then it's also impossible to extract the music. The tension of the strings should be medium - not loose, but not too tight, but exactly in the middle. The sitar is easy to play, but only a master can tune the strings correctly. There needs to be a middle ground here.
And the Buddha said:
“That's what I wanted to tell you, watching you all this time. The music that you want to extract from yourself will sound only when the strings are not loosened or overtightened, but right in the middle. Shravan, be a Master and know that excessive exertion of strength turns into excess, and excessive relaxation into weakness. Bring yourself into balance - the only way you can achieve the goal.
What specifically needs to be done in order to restore peace of mind? First, find the antipode, the name of the antonym of the negative emotion - for example, on Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions. This positive emotion is your goal for this moment. Suppose now it is necessary to neutralize sadness. Therefore, “the purpose of your appointment” is joy, or, for example, in the case of anger, calmness.
Now it is necessary to indicate the “path of your following”, for a situation with sadness, it will be like this:
Sadness - slight sadness - indifference - quiet joy - joy.
So, we know where we are going and the main transit points. Now, remember (and for this, of course, you need to constantly keep in touch with your mental well-being, mood and know what events or actions on your part cause you to have corresponding emotions) when you most often experience the corresponding emotions. In other words, what causes you a slight sadness or quiet joy? .. For example, listening to certain music or walking, or calling a particular person or reading books on a well-known subject, a story from the life of your friend or any other person, something reminiscent of yours, meditation, audio practice, etc. There are many options, and the more you can name them and more accurately imagine what your actions cause the corresponding emotional condition, all the better. The more perfectly you manage yourself, the less independent of the mood and actions of other people.
After making sure that you have reached an intermediate point on your path to joy, go to the next sub-item and so on until you reach the desired target state-mood.
Let's consider a slightly different case. Suppose you are aware that you are worried or alarmed about something, but it is difficult for you, due to feelings or for other reasons, to call the emotion “by name”. Remember, any emotions, both positive and negative, cause certain sensations in our body.
In other words, the emotion is objectified, now it is already material. Most likely, the heart will not break due to parting with a loved one, but it is quite possible to feel pain in the chest. Or feel real dizziness from both joyful excitement, anticipation of something very pleasant, and hitting your head on the door frame.
Depending on their nature, mental experiences can be transformed in the body either into a feeling of warmth, spaciousness, light and lightness, or into coldness, tightness, and heaviness. It is on the last forms of manifestation of the energy of negative emotions in the body that our next actions to restore peace of mind will be directed.
What should be done?
- First of all, evaluate your bodily sensations associated with the negative experience - what do you feel (burning, emptiness...)?
- Then be aware of the location of these bodily sensations. - where do you feel it (in your head, chest, stomach, back, arms, legs...)?
- Next, create a visual and sound (visual and auditory) image of what you feel - what it might look like (cast iron stove, roar of waves ..)?
- The next step is to mentally take this material object out of your body and place it in the space in front of you.
- And now the most pleasant thing is to remake the "rendered" object from its negative to its positive value. Change the shape (round, smooth), color (recolor colors to calm, create a harmonious color scheme), make it light, warm, pleasant to the touch, give the sound the volume and tone you need.
- Now that you like what you ended up with, return the image you changed to yourself and dissolve it in the depths of your body. Feel how your experiences have changed, become aware of new positive emotions.
The image is the language of the unconscious. Its task is to concentrate energy. The nature of the image determines the quality of the energy. By changing it, you change the energy basis of the experience, that is, its very essence, turning negative emotions into positive ones. By the way, scientists (and not just the creators of the film The Secret) are sure that in the same way it is possible to influence the work of organs that are not directly subordinate to us, for example, heartbeat, digestion and hormonal regulation, etc. Using the body-mind connection, one can train (with enough effort, patience, and perseverance) to voluntarily change blood pressure or reduce acid production that leads to an ulcer, as well as do dozens of other things.
In the event that for some reason the above exercise cannot be performed, and you need to calm down immediately, do the following. This is a more simplified version of the previous method and will require less concentration.
The researchers found that the best visual image to relieve stress and return to a calm state is the combination of water and white.
Close your eyes and imagine white (precisely white, not transparent!) Water. Mentally track how the "milky liquid" reaches your crown, forehead. Feel a light touch of moisture that flows further - on the eyes, lips, shoulders, chest, stomach, back, thighs, flows down the legs. White water should cover you completely: from head to toe. Enjoy this state for a few seconds, and then imagine how white water slowly flows down to the floor into a funnel, taking all the troubles with it. Take a deep breath and open your eyes.
To better understand your current state and mood, and to make sure that the next steps are correct or need to be adjusted, the following projective test will help.
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Each person runs uncontrollably through life: trying to follow the set goals, meet the needs of society, step over difficulties and obstacles ... If he does not stop periodically in this difficult race, he will run out of steam very soon, and then the problems will fall on his weakened shoulders with a new burden. Is there really no way out of this vicious circle? Yes, you just need to force yourself to go the distance and listen to your feelings. This will help to find spiritual harmony and peace, to find true values in life. Take note of the following tips.
Everyone has long known that life for each person plays with the colors with which he paints it. If you constantly dwell on difficulties, then you can forget about peace of mind. Set yourself up for the fact that from any problem you can learn a useful experience.
Don't shy away from difficulties. Take problems and contradictions as a new impetus for your development, stepping over which, you will find yourself one step higher.
Sometimes it's good to just ignore the problems. Live for today and be glad that there are so many little charms around: a cup of aromatic coffee in the morning, beautiful sunrises and sunsets, strong hugs from your children and sincere children's laughter ... Then you will not need to puzzle over how to find peace of mind and peace of mind - They will find you.
This advice complements the previous one. Tune in to life in a new image - a winner and a successful person. Do not expect criticism and judgmental views from all sides. Even if they slip through, evaluate them correctly: people often criticize others in order to assert themselves in their own eyes. Get rid of the influence of public opinion, and this inner independence will tell you how to find peace of mind.
Psychologists have proven a direct connection between physical exercises and the psychological state of a person.
You can experiment: if you feel overwhelmed and anxious, go outside and do a light jog or exercise. You will immediately feel cheerfulness, a surge of strength and see your problems dissolved somewhere outside of consciousness.
Don't forget that you can make your body work for you. Try on a smile more often, and it will become firmly fixed not only on your face, but also in your thoughts.
Imagine that you were instructed in the theater to play the role of a calm and confident person, contented with life. "Put on his suit": squat, lift your head proudly, develop a firm look, walk lightly and calmly.
Also work on your speech. Very soon the body will adjust to your “wave”, and you will not have to play.
Laughter helps us get through bad times. This is a real panacea for all sorts of psychological diseases. Always smile and try to look at life situations with humor. Or at least communicate more often with people who are easy on life and can “breathe” peace of mind and harmony in you.
If a person is open to the world, then it is easier for him to endure his hardships. In fellowship, we find an outlet, pouring out our troubles and freeing a wounded soul.
Another important note: do not make the surrounding enemies or your debtors. Forgive them generously and try to give other people more than you demand or expect from them.
You will immediately feel how the burden of unresolved conflicts that has been pressing on you all this time will go away. This is one of the safest ways to find peace.